"As mothers, we occupy a unique and cherished spot in the hearts of our children.
We must not underestimate the power of our position"- Debbie Bowan.
Completely evident is the seemingly soon impending arrival of our baby and I have found myself really contemplating just how I will manage. I have no intention of sounding as a martyr and I know that some things, like mothering, cause women to rise to the challenge. Maybe not perfectly, but at least with a whole hearted effort. I've thought about myself as the caretaker of these little lovelies in my life and wonder if I yell too much and over worry about the order and cleanliness of our home and are the meals healthy enough and shouldn't I be brushing there teeth much more thoroughly and working with Tanner on his reading and turning the TV off more and... the list goes on. And on. The best advice I read lately shared,
"Many mothers would do well to do things that are beneficial to themselves and therefore beneficial to their children. So consider being kinder to yourself in some way... take a nap when needed, by recognizing that you are a better mother than you sometimes think you are, by giving yourself a break when it comes to getting it all done today."
I don't think most of the things I worry about will be that significant years down the road, but I do seem to hang by them now instead. And I believe I need to try and stop and just remember, that those 3 little kids that are all bunched up on the same cushion under 1 blanket, although we have many cushions and blankets, would always first choose to be loved really well by me. I really believe that. In order for me to love them really well, I need to be kinder and gentler with myself. I will have some major adjustments to face in the next month or so, finding new ways to juggle and adjust and adore each child in the right way. I can't forget to be a loving mother to myself either.
7 comments:
I absolutely do not believe you yell! I really can't even imagine that you're capable of raising your voice at all. Thanks for this post, I've been kind of beating myself up lately over my inadaquacies as a Mother and reading this helps so much!
You do deserve to take care of yourself (and let others serve you as well) - you need to be rejuvenated and refreshed!
You are an amazing mom and I find myself admiring your motherly qualities OFTEN!
We both need to remember to have a little fun with the kids once in a while too!
Lacey, I love you! You have no idea how much I admire and look up to you. I see the way you mother and it makes me want to do better! Thank you for you inspired words...I needed them!
Lacey, I've always thought of you as SUPER-MOM! I don't know how you manage to take care of your kids (single handedly with Ryan schedule a lot of the time), and take care of so many others around you. You are always the first to volunteer for service. You definitely deserve to pamper yourself... even if it just means a quick nap or something else aside from the everyday tasks. You are great!
Lacey- I wish I was closer to help out! Hang in there- I remember thinking whatever will I do with four babies 6 and under and somehow all of us survived! Take good care of yourself- you mean alot to lots of people!
So well put and completely true! You certainly have a way with words.
It was SO wonderful to spend some of your Memorial Day with you. I was thrilled to get to know Ryan better. He's so nice. You make quite the couple.
Good luck on the next few weeks with your pregnancy. That Procardia is the pits, but at least you'll soon have a healthy baby in your arms!
Thinking of you!
Okay I didn't realize you were soon to be a mother of 4. I mean I know you're prego but I forgot how soon you were due. I bet you're getting antsy. Oh I hate those last weeks. Yuck!
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